Comfort for the Day

– 9 – Reading is another way you can acquaint yourself with a deeper awareness of grief and the process of healing and recovery. By learning about others’ experiences and thoughts, you have additional information to affirm your own emotions and healing. Not all things others have experienced fit every need, so trust God’s Spirit for discernment. Additional comfort and encouragement can be found at www.comfortfortheday.com Express Yourself Writing is one of the best grief work activities that men, women, and children can do. It is a free tool that brings relief, clarity and healing for our broken hearts. This book is obviously designed to encourage your writing. Having an outlet to express your thoughts and emotions is part of the therapy for heart healing. It can be painful, but it will lead you towards healthy grieving. It is difficult for two things to occupy the same space. When we are filled with grieving thoughts and feelings, it is difficult for healing thoughts and feelings to take occupation of our minds. Write on and on until you find emotional transitions taking place inside of you. It really does work. One of the very best, but most painful, writing tasks we completed was to write a “good-bye” letter to our son. However, as we wrote we experienced new space in our emotions to begin to accept comfort and healing. Writing a “goodbye” letter becomes a tool for releasing all that we wish we could have said, but didn’t. You may feel a deep need to express your love. A “Good-Bye” letter begins the process of accepting the interruption of the relationship, while allowing you to retain the precious or treasured memories of that relationship. When you need to express regret, ask for forgiveness, or give forgiveness see page 36-42 for detailed steps in this kind of letter writing. A “Forgiveness” letter can do nothing to reverse the loss, but it is a necessary step toward bringing you freedom from an endless cycle of pain, guilt, and regret. To the degree you engage in your grief work, you will experience more or less healing. K.Nicola